Fellow white people…

whovianfeminist:

A child is dead because we didn’t speak up, we didn’t lift a finger.  We’ve taken racism as a joke, and continue to deny privilege and deny where power lies in this country. Its obvious that tonight, as with all nights, power resided with the authorities, who took it upon themselves to murder an innocent child, simply because they could. But they aren’t the only ones accountable. Its the fault of all of us white people, who set up this system where police can kill a kid and its “just a regular Monday” for all of us. We don’t stop to see the mounting body count of POC, being murdered by us privileged, selfish, white people. Tonight, as you lay down to sleep, think of the mother unable to sleep because her Heart and Soul was murdered. Think of all the countless mothers and fathers and siblings through the long decades who have suffered the loss of a family member because we were too fucking lazy to stop the hate. Most of all, think about how, if this child were white, the reaction would be universal outrage, and justice would come quickly. Then remember that this child wasn’t white, and justice isn’t guaranteed for him, or for the many other POC we have murdered. Exactly how many more POC have to die before we get off our asses and do something?

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this radical feminism crap is yet another sign

fromonesurvivortoanother:

…of too much white feminist reading, and not enough intersectional Women of Color reading.

Not enough critical thought. Once you learn the basics of The Other, dominator-subordinate, and western dualisms…you realize that this kind of “radical” feminism is just not radical at all. All it does is the same shit white western patriarchal society has been doing for ages, but under a different disguise.

Actively discriminating against and hating another group is not radical politics. it’s what western society has been doing for millenia. And it’s especially not radical when your politics hinge upon the same old biological essentialism. It also makes no sense given that non-binary people have so little political and social power. Like the arguments for how threatening we supposedly are literally come out of nowhere.

The only feminism that is “radical” is a feminism which relentlessly critiques and deconstructs the concepts we take for granted— a feminism that seeks to understand flexible, ever-changing identities instead of only accepting set in stone biological ones. We need to understand that western society has forced us into binaries as if they are the only option, when actually human beings are far more complicated, and there are many more experiences out there.

But who am I kidding someone is probably just going to use a false dilemma fallacy and call me a monster when they reblog this

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How to troll a feminist by being the better person:

thefremen:

swanson-goldwater-rand:

(generally only applies if you’re female)

They ask: “Are you a feminist?”

You say: “No, I’m more of an egalitarian.”

Their face:

Your face:

You need to come get your people: http://egalitarianforequality.tumblr.com/

Dear OP:

[image description: Captain Jack Sparrow sashays away, while white text reads “We shall have a magnificent garden party and you’re not invited.”]

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The Last Post I Will Make On This(TW: Misogynist slurs, racist slurs, heterosexist slurs)

thefremen:

egalitarianforequality:

About insults:

The whole point of insults is that they are meant to be insulting. They are meant to hurt your tender little feelings, they are made to make you feel bad, they are made to insult you. 

Insults that make women feel bad about themselves are things like cunt, slut, and bitch.

And what do all these constructs mean? Every last one of them is misogynist. When you use them it doesn’t necessarily make you a misogynist but depending on how you apply it and how often you use these gendered constructs as insults it can easily betray just how misogynist someone is. 

Insults that make men feel bad about themselves are things like dick, dickhead, and pig.

Pig is somewhat a-gendered but the other two are cissexist and really? Not that bad, not that offensive. I don’t think many people were called “dick” by their rapist for trying to fight back. 

Insults that make gay people feel bad about themselves are things like faggot and queer.

Yeah and a lot more.

I will say this one time: if your main concern is trying to make insults politically correct, you need to take a step back and calm down.

Insults are supposed to be offensive. Insults are supposed to be politically incorrect. The whole purpose of them is to make you feel bad about yourself.

People are never going to stop using insults. It’s a valiant battle to be fighting, sure, but it’s a pointless one. People like to be mean. It’s human nature. So instead of trying to force everyone to be nice, I suggest you learn to deal with it like the rest of us.

Therefore, going back to my original post: using an insult, regardless of how it has been used in the past by other people, regardless of how you use it, is not inherently racist/sexist/homophobic. If I call a woman a bitch because she’s acting like a bitch, I’m not a misogynist. If a woman calls a man a dick because he’s acting like a dick, she doesn’t hate all men.

Capeche?

These “insults” are all constructs? What is a “bitch” or a “cunt” or a “slut”? These only make sense and are hurtful because of context and usage. “Slut” is a bad thing because it’s thought of as awful for a woman to enjoy sex. “Bitch” is more often than not used for any woman who stands up for herself, which is thought of as a bad thing, or used against men/people read as men to point out how they are acting feminine/are femme which is thought of as a bad thing. 

In Clerks 2 one of the characters didn’t understand the construct or context of “Porch Monkey” and took it upon himself to reclaim it. He had no way of knowing it was a vile racist slur, and in using it out of ignorance one could not say that he himself was racist. But he was exposed to it by someone who was racist (his grandmother, established later on to be deeply racist) and the fact the term and the construct behind it exists at all betrays a racist culture. 

Just like the character in Clerk’s 2, you don’t suddenly get to decide what words mean to other people. If you think “bitch” is harmless because you love to apply it to every person you read as a woman who disagrees with you that’s fine, but it is a misogynist term created by a misogynist society and it IS used to silence women and keep men from deviating from patriarchal masculinity. 

…I’m not particularly *surprised* that EforE just tried to justify their use of misogynist slurs by, in essence, saying “I use misogynist slurs against women because they’re misogynistic and therefore they hurt more”.  But I’m taken slightly aback by the brazenness of the argument.  “Of course my insults are oppressive, I’m using them to oppress you, shut up and quit complaining will you?”  Well, at least they didn’t try to weasel out of the accusation. 

Oh, and for the record, here are some of the non-oppressive insults I regularly use: assnugget, shitball, wankstain, meat nugget, fuckwit, goatfucker, douchenozzle.  Append “flaming ___” to any of the noun insults for extra points.  (And they say swearing is the sign of an uncreative mind.  lol stfu.)  Feel free to borrow if you can’t figure out how to make up your own!

Really, to borrow a distinction from maeverynthia (who said it to me on twitter long ago), the problem here isn’t that we want people to stop using offensive words.  We want you to stop using *oppressive* words.  Insults?  Are fine.  Insults based on Othering and oppressing people?  Are not fine.  This isn’t rocket science, kids.

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Literally, IRL.: My weekly rant:(TW: ableism, misogyny, cissexism)

thefremen:

the-feel-good-inc:

the-feel-good-inc:

thefremen:

the-feel-good-inc:

I’ve just realized that thanks to these I’ve insulted:

All religions ever made, All left wingers/socialists, anyone who believes in Astrology or anything else like that, pop music fans, and many many more.

I’m kinda running out of…

So are you going to make any point whatsoever?

You’re clearly a feminist.

Are you just going to sit there and personally insult me, or actually counter-act anything I say?

Is it worth me even discussing anything with you or will you blow it off, wave a hippy flag, scream “peace on Earth”, and demand that women get surgically attached penis’ because Mother Nature is Sexist?

I don’t expect my dog to be able to hold a worthwhile conversation with me, but watching her catch a frisbee is still pretty fun. Watching you get red faced and froth at the mouth is likewise an entertaining diversion. 

*ding* Ladies, gentlemen, and genderfolk, we have a winner!

(I am totally tucking this reply in my pocket for the next time I need to be dismissively condescending to some douchewank on the internet.)

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Feminism

thefremen:

mybrainisworkingovertime:

Just wondering, kind of a curiosity thing, but I want to know this…
What is the mindset behind the feminist movement today?

Or rather…

What, in modern present-day United States society, are feminists working to accomplish?

And at the same time, how do feminists feel about women upholding traditional values?  As in, the last two decades or so more than ever, women have broken the stereotypical view of being subservient to men, at least in the United States, and have continued to gain respect and social equality… But are still expected to be mothers and wives and such.  Not of their duty, of course, but that’s what I’m asking…  What is the importance of a matriarchal figure in a “traditional” family in comparison to the father figure and how does that relate to the movement?

How much is misogyny and how much is just the result of the light-hearted battle of the sexes?  Where is the line drawn?  Men and women are both prone to stereotyping, usually in jest.

If an educated feminist would like to enlighten me, I’d be much obliged.

Looks legit. 

Here, try this.

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(TW: Victim Blaming to the Nth degree, murder, rape, suicide))Dear: Feminists Who Are Attacking Me,

thefremen:

xdriftaway90x:

And who are apparently illiterate as well….

You should know that nothing you say actually matters to me and I pretty much get a good laugh from how deluded you are to actually believe that defending a woman’s choice to stay in an abusive relationship is considered ‘feminism.’ If you ask me, they’ve really lowered the standards for what feminism is these days…

If you won’t defend a person’s decision to commit suicide, then you really shouldn’t be defending a woman’s decision to stay in an abusive relationship. Otherwise, you’re just proving your hypocrisy in full colors.  

And when your daughter or a woman you care about decides to stay in an abusive relationship with a man until she gets herself killed, you can come back and tell me that there was absolutely nothing wrong with her decision to stay. 

Stop trying to be a feminist just for the sake of feminism. Take a stand for something that makes sense and something that you believe in. Feminism isn’t just defending a woman’s right to take a shit when she wants to take a shit or defending a woman’s right to cook a meal when she wants to cook a meal. When you are defending a woman’s right TO DIE, there is something wrong. There is a limit to how far feminism should extend. And just because something is not YOUR IDEAL OF WHAT A WOMAN SHOULD BE does not make it WRONG.

That’s the problem with feminists anyways. They always think that if a woman is not how they like her to be, that she is being suppressed to her lifestyle. It’s why I would never be a feminist. Because no one is actually taking a stand for women anymore. They just think they are. It’s a shame.  

Again, you’re missing the mark. You’re speaking from a position of what seems to be significant privilege. When you say someone “chooses” to stay in an abusive marriage, when police say that when people in general say that, you’re blaming them for not having the resources to leave. I stayed in an abusive marriage for years because I had absolutely no support structure in place, combined with societal pressure to avoid having a “failed” marriage, along with the fact I was all stockholm’d up at times, and was completely used to blaming myself. 

It’s no coincidence that (relatively) shortly after finding support from people I filed for divorce. 

Some people have to choose between an abusive marriage or deportation, an abusive marriage and prison, an abusive marriage and death. Don’t forget that for many people who aren’t TAB they depend on a spouse as a caretaker, and even a shitty abusive caretaker is a far sight better than none at all. 

It’s funny that you bring suicide up because suicide is a choice, and it’s one that people should have available to them when their capacity to cope is far exceeded by what they have to cope with. It’s actually sometimes the only realistic way out of an abusive relationship.

So stop with this notion that everyone has the capability to get employment on their own, or is able to get the justice system to work for them, or can live independently, or has parents or friends who will support them after a divorce, or all these other things which allows someone the freedom to make a choice and be able to leave an abusive relationship.  Divorce wouldn’t even fucking exist if not for feminism, and one of the many current aims of modern feminism is to make it a more accessible option for more people but we are not there yet, not even fucking close. 

“And when your daughter or a woman you care about decides to stay in an abusive relationship with a man until she gets herself killed”

“until she gets herself killed”

“gets herself killed”

I freely admit I didn’t read a damn bit past this point, because if you’re going to unironically call the murder of a victim of abuse by hir abuser “getting hirself killed”, I’m just going to go ahead and write you off as a terrible fucking person, period the end no further discussion required.

YOU KNOW WHOSE FAULT THE MURDER OF AN ABUSE VICTIM IS?  THE FUCKING ABUSER WHO MURDERED HIR.  Full stop.  Please work through this issue until you understand that distinction before ever attempting to voice your “opinion” on the issue again.

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thetransboy:

TW for trans-oppression in the commentary. Literally, IRL.: Attraction, penises, transmisogyny, and how a non-penis-liking person such as myself has had pleasurable sexual…

lizardwalk:

anchoredatsea:

pianycist:

I very often hear people say that the reason they wouldn’t want to date or have sex with a trans woman because they’re ~not attracted to penis~. Apparently in the minds of people who say that, penis owners wear huge signs on their heads with detailed drawings of their penises on…

Yeah, No, fucking disagree.

First of all, genitalia DOES play a part in true sexual attraction and whether or not you want to engage in sexual interaction with somebody. Just because genitalia doesn’t pose a problem for YOU doesn’t mean that everything is peachy for other people.

Second of all, nobody should rag on anybody else for who or what they are or are not attracted to. There are certain types of men that I am attracted to and certain types of women. I am not sexually attracted to androgynous people, and I am not sexually attracted to trans* people. This does not make me a bigot or a transmysoginistic asshole. No, trans* people do not wear signs depicting their genitalia on their forehead. I am not saying that I could not/have not seen a trans* person and thought that they were beautiful. But when it comes down to sex, I am simply not interested. Although I support transgenderism and I support playing with gender, I am not sexually attracted to it. And I don’t fucking have to be in order to be a fantastic feminist and a decent person.

We’re not all the same, some of us don’t have a ridiculously fluid sexuality, and we don’t have to be attracted to every single type of person in order for us to be non-bigots.

Actually, yes, that DOES make you a bigot and a transmysoginistic asshole.  What you’re saying here’s kind of the definition of bigoted, trans-oppressive, transmisogynistic assholery.

^

The fact that you refer to anyone who doesn’t discriminate against trans* potential sexual partners as having “ridiculously fluid sexuality” pretty much tells me all I need to know about your underlying bigotry here.

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Source: metapianycist

Ms. Magazine: 25 facts on Rape in America (TW)

fistwavingfeminism:

  1. The FBI’s definition of “forcible rape” in their Uniform Crime Report (UCR): “The carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will.” [PDF]
  2. What that definition leaves out: anal, oral and statutory rape; incest; rape with an object, finger or fist; rape of men
  3. Number of men raped in any year, according to the UCR: 0 [PDF]
  4. Estimated number of men actually raped each year, according to the Dept. of Justice: 93,000 [PDF]
  5. Number of women raped in 2007 under the UCR definition: 91,874
  6. Number of sexual assaults in 2007–which includes rapes the FBI leaves out–according to the National Crime Victimization Survey: 248,300
  7. Dept. of Justice estimate of how many women are actually raped each year: 300,000 [PDF]
  8. Number of arrests for rape in 2007 (UCR): 23,307
  9. Percentage of rapes that result in incarceration: 0.35 percent [PDF]
  10. Number of murders/manslaughters in 2007 (UCR): 17,157
  11. Number of arrests for murder/manslaughter in 2007 (UCR): 13,480
  12. Percentage of murders that result in incarceration: 20 percent or more [PDF]
  13. Average number of rapes to every murder committed annually: 5 to 1
  14. Two of the top five cities in the U.S. with the most “unfounded” (i.e., falsely reported, according to police) rapes: New Orleans and Baltimore
  15. Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” by New Orleans police in 2008: 60 percent
  16. Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” by Baltimore police in 2009: 32 percent
  17. Percentage of actual estimated false rape reports in any given year according to research studies: 2-8 percent
  18. Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” by the FBI in 2006: 5 percent
  19. How Baltimore police once explained their “unfounded” rape rate: “One of the things we know is that victims do lie.”
  20. Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” (i.e. falsely reported) by Philadelphia police in 1983: 52 percent
  21. The year Philadelphia was forced to clean up its rape reporting practices: 1999
  22. Percentage of rape reports deemed unfounded in Philadelphia in 2007: 10 percent
  23. What a Philadelphia police officer once called his city’s sex crimes unit: “The lying bitches unit.”
  24. “Reasons” women lie about rape, according to Philadelphia’s police department in 1984: revenge; free abortion; covering up truancy, pregnancy, infidelity, lost money, sexual precocity.
  25. Number of people who have signed a letter urging the FBI to change its definition of rape: 2,019 (and counting)

Yeah.  Go ahead and tell me how We Take Rape Srsly In This Country.  Go ahead and read #9 again - Percentage of rapes that result in incarceration: 0.35 percent - and tell me how seriously we take rape.  What the fucking fuck.  Rape is basically a crime without consequences in this country.

Well.  For rapists, anyway. 

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Source: fistwavingfeminism

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