*reading article about a cissexist teen pregnancy campaign that featured photomanips of teen boys being pregnant, which apparently originally referred to those images as “disturbing”*

*come across a comment that the makers of that campaign “did vet the images with professionals working specifically on transgender issues, who said they did not find the ads offensive”*

…out of curiosity, do you think that those professionals were, y’know.  Actually trans people?  Because the way they worded that sounds to me like “well, cis allies in positions of power at supposedly-inclusive queer orgs said it was okay, and they should know, right?”

For a constructed vagina to be considered acceptable by surgeons specialized in intersexuality, it basically just has to be a hole big enough to fit a typical-sized penis. It is not required to be self-lubricating or even to be at all sensitive, and certainly does not need to change shape the way vaginas often do when women are sexually stimulated. So, for example, in a panel of discussion of surgeons who treat intersexuality, when one was asked, ‘How do you define successful intercourse? How many of these girls actually have an orgasm, for example?’ a member of the panel responded, ‘Adequate intercourse was defined as successful vaginal penetration,’ All that is required is a receptive hole.

 Alice Domurat Dreger (2004) “Ambiguous Sex”—or Ambivalent Medicine? (137-153) In Health, Disease and Illness.  (via pipipiripiripi)

Further proof that society only cares about men’s pleasure, and only thinks of women as holes.

(even though not all women have vaginas/not everyone with a vagina is a woman)

This is why if I *ever* birth a child, I’m doing it with a midwife who is made to understand beforehand that if my child is intersex, they are to be left *intact*. Intersex people do not exist to be “fixed”.

(via zyymurgy)

And guess what was the idea of ‘good’ male genitals for intersex people expressed by these same doctors? A functioning and big enough penis. Because a man would be nothing with a small dick, right?

Ugh. This is why oppressed groups that have to deal with doctors (intersex people, transgender people, autistic people, disabled people, etc) are extra vulnerable: because the medical world is really fucked up. You will meet more old oppressive, sexist, ableist stereotypes in modern medical education than in most republican speeches. It’s really really sickening.

(via anotherlgbttumblr)

This literally makes me feel ill.

(via myasphyxiatedmind)

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Source: kno-ur-onionz

why i love being a cis gay man

stylishbutillegaljamie:

jadelyn:

stylishbutillegaljamie:

failstun:

  • no unplanned pregancy
  • i can love boys without the cost of periods/the menstrual cycle
  • i can share clothes with my lover
  • we can wear whatever color we’d like without being judged
  • we can help our straight guy friends out with girls
  • we can help our girl friends out with guys
  • penis

Once more for the cheap seats: there are men who can get pregnant.  There are women who can impregnate someone.  ”Being gay” is not inherently the same thing as “we both have the same reproductive organs”.  ”No unplanned pregnancy/no menstrual cycle” is not guaranteed in a relationship for a gay man, unless he’s also a transphobic jerk.  I get that you find it witty and stuff, but…stop.  

Remember that our acronym is LGBT.  

Sorry, I just reblogged and didn’t think! Is the title change okay?

Well, no, because the issue isn’t that it’s written from the perspective of a cis gay man.  The issue is that it’s written by a cis gay man who is making a broad assumption that every male partner he might ever have will also be cis.  It’s about the presumptive partner’s cis/trans-ness, not about the OP’s.  

Lists like this, cute as they may be in some ways, aren’t salvageable except by just flat-out removing the cissexist bits.  Taking those first two bullet points out would fix it.  Titling it to be about a cis gay dude doesn’t.

Source: failstun

[TW: cissexism, body/sexuality-shaming] sonneillonv: tempestcaliban: cranniesinmybrain: Ummm….unf… cupcakevandorn: leahjasmine: Men suck at eating pussy. Not because they don’t like it but because it’s really fucking hard. You have to learn it. Giving good head is the key to just about everything in life (including getting good head later on), so it’s time we broke it down. Like this. The secret to giving good head is to read the signs. You could be the best sexual mechanic in the world, but if you can’t read the emotional road signs, you’re going to end up wandering around in a desolate labial wasteland until, eventually, you drop from exhaustion, hot tears of confusion streaming down your face.Think of eating the puss as your way of saying, “although I am about to rock your insides with 3 000 lbs. of explosives, here’s a little intimate treat session to show you how I really feel.” Instead of screaming “OH MY GOD!!” like her baby has been trapped under a car (which is what fucking should do), cunnilingus elicits a more splendiferous “ooohmygodohmygod-ohmygod.” Kind of like being massaged with exotic fruits by a muscular Arab oil sheik. A good mange (that’s French for “eat,” you brutes) is like a thousand years of Saturdays or one of those Flake adverts. Break it down!BE DOWN Don’t go down unless you’re down. Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don’t want to will only bring on the dry heaves. Eat like a pig at the trough and a lot of stupid mistakes get forgiven. DON’T SAY HI TO DRYA dry pussy is an unhappy pussy. If your fingers graze a dry bush, go back to the kissing and hugging for awhile. Just make sure you actually dip your finger between the lips. Sometimes moisture gets trapped between the labia and a little fingerial coaxing is all that’s needed to get the honey dripping. Once you’re sure the beaver is wet, give it a few light, teasing strokes with your finger. There’s nothing worse than rushing into this, so make sure she’s really begging for it before you get under the covers.Extra tip: Be like Prince and bring up a wet finger that both of you can share like a 1950s milkshake with two straws.Important: Don’t play your trump card too soon by putting your fingers all the way inside. This can detract from the upcoming penetration and kill the tease factor. Try to remember that 78% of a woman’s pleasure is about yearning. Poking it in too soon is sure to put out the fire.SUBMARINE MISSION FOR YOU, BABYOnce she’s lathered up, it’s time to go down. Get your fingers out of there and don’t touch anything for a bit. Let your lap do a bit of grinding and get some last-minute necking in like you’re going away on vacation. Though it’s very tempting on your way down to pull the blankets over your head like the little mole-man that you are, this is a very bad idea. It gets super hot down there and whipping the duvet off your head and gasping for air ten seconds before she comes is pretty much going to kill the mood. Start by kissing her boobs and stomach and slowly working your way down. Don’t get carried away with those stupid tits, though. That’s something you should have taken care of before the pants even came off. Right now it’s all about the stomach and inner thighs. A little bit of gentle biting is good, but a sure winner is to start at the knee and move towards the muff in a slow, shark-like swoop. Nibble your way right up to the edge of her cunt, then skip across it and head for the other knee. Repeat. Doing this a few times will get her really hot and save you a lot of pussy-eating time in the long run. When you’re just about ready to do the deed, start practicing on that weird crevice next to the lips. Don’t spend too long there or she might start to think that you think that’s the actual cunt.By now she should be dying for you to make your move. If you’re doing it right, she’ll be moaning and trying to force your head between her legs. Stretch this phase out until she looks like she’s been holding her breath for three days.Extra trick: Hover over the bush for about five seconds before the first lick. If you wait longer than that, she might think you’re having second thoughts because it smells bad. Of course, we all knows that motherfucker smells sweeter than a bowl of steamin’ crawdaddies.Important: Never bite the cunt in any way whatsoever. If this needs more explaining you should probably just stick to jerking off.PARTING THE RED SEASIsolate your playing field. Pubic hairs are to eating pussy what cavities are to dental hygiene. You’re never going to be able to identify all the parts if she looks like that PIL album That What is Not. One hot trick is to get her to spread her lips apart so her pussy is all set up for you like a great big buffet.THE GRAND ENTRANCEDo your first lick super slow. It’s good to groan and moan too. It shows you’re digging it while sending microscopic audiophonic vibrations right up her snapper. Start just above the anus and take it all the way to the fur. Do about a dozen of these “St. Bernard licks” before moving on (take it really slow, like four seconds per lick). This is a good time to figure out what kind of clit she has. If it’s real sensitive she’ll probably convulse as you pass over it and that means you’re probably in for an easy ride. If there’s no reaction when you graze over her clit, she probably has one of those nerveless little pea clits and you’re in for a thirty-minute session of tongue-tendinitis.ROCK THE BOATEating pussy is so gentle it can make you feel like a bit of a fag. If you’re getting tired of being ballerina boy, take it out on the clit. Figure out how much abuse it can take without making her uncomfortable and show the little bastard who’s boss.After all, Mr. Elusive is precisely what makes muff diving so difficult. He’s surrounded by labia and, even after you find him, all the pressure can pop him over to the side. All of a sudden you’re giving the pee hole the seeing to of its life. Think of the clit like a tumor in a pile of ear lobes. When you push down on the area he’s the only one that can’t be squished. Once one of your tongue troopers finds him, call for reinforcements. Use your lips to get hers out of the way and focus all your attention into getting him alone. Once you find him, give him a bit of a hard time for trying to hide from you. Frisk him and give him a couple of whacks across the head. More on this punk and his bad attitude later. Extra important tip: The best way to stimulate the clit is to run your entire tongue over it after you isolate it from the lips. The man in the boat should feel the texture of the entire tongue pushing down on his body and his boat.IDENTIFYING THE CLIT TYPEAfter the slow licks it’s time to get this party started. There are essentially two types of clitori. Ones that enjoy a serious going over and ones that don’t. The latter suck about as much as a one-inch penis and you should dump her right away.Extra tip: Clits come in all shapes, sizes and sensitivities, but that doesn’t really tell you much. All of them want to be treated slow and soft at the beginning but the only way to tell if you can go fast at the end is by reading her reactions. This is impossible to teach but just do the best you can. All we can tell you is convulsing means take it ease and “Oh my God” means bring it on.CLITS THAT NEED A SERIOUS GOING OVERThese are the most fun because you can be creative. Pretend your tongue is the bad cop and the clit is the guy who killed your partner. Separate him from his buddies (the lips) and suck him right up into your mouth. Now he’s on your turf. Keep him erect by creating an air-tight vacuum chamber in your mouth. Slap the little bugger upside the head with one big tongue bonk. He’s not going to tell you shit because he’s a clit and he has no idea what you’re talking about, but kick his ass anyway. After a few teasers and swirling circles, rat-a-tat-tat him senseless like a boxer whacking a speed bag. If she starts freaking out like it’s too much, ease up on the interrogation and go back to the St. Bernard licks. The vacuum is a great way to bring her to orgasm, but it’s a bit much sometimes, so mix things up with some circles around the clit and some tongue fucking. As you’re closing in for the kill, go back to the vacuum and give the suspect a relentless head smacking. Up-and-downies are usually the most effective, but your tongue will get less tired if you throw in a few side-to-sides. When you feel the inner thighs start to shake, this is it. Be repetitive. Do NOT be creative. You’re almost home and this is not the time to start changing tactics.Extra tip: To keep the rhythm going, try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue like a Mic Mac Indian (hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya). Any inconsistent action may throw her off, killing the mood or at least setting you back a few minutes, which is bad for morale.Important: Keep going several seconds after her orgasm. Remember, it isn’t over until the hands come down from above and lay you off. If she’s multi-orgasmic you’ll have to keep going until you’ve done the whole routine another four or five times. If you’re not sure what to do, just keep giving her shit until the magic hands come down to pull you off.CLITS THAT DON’TSome clits don’t want to be singled out and battered around. These are the boring ones that need to be treated with gentle care. Just do casual St. Bernard licks until she cums, pure and simple. If you’re getting bored try going in some different directions for a while. A good way to keep it random is to spell out different letters of the alphabet with the tip of your tongue. You could be looking at half an hour here pal, and that can be problematic. If you go for that long and she doesn’t cum, you’re going to be in a foul mood, so if it’s too much work, move on. On the bright side, going for thirty minutes is something few people have the patience for, so sticking it out will lead to some payback when period week comes around.THE CONCLUSIONOnce you’re done (totally finished) she’s going to want you out of there pronto because the whole area is sensitive. Instead of leaving, stick out your tongue and lay it down on her like a thick, soggy carpet. Make sure you don’t move it or anything because that can actually hurt her. Just let it sit there like a dead manta ray for about thirty seconds. Then come up and wipe your face like a pirate. You now have a good minute to get the condom on and take her from the quarters of Prince Muhammad Muhammad Saddat to the cockpit of an F-15. Hahaha…  this. BLESS THIS POST. THIS. IS. THE BEST. GUIDE. EVER. I liked this post until they talked about how women with sensitive clits suck and need to be dumped. Yeah fuck you Yup, oral sex hurts me, so I guess I need to be dumped. Wow.  I was liking it for the first couple paragraphs, but holy shit did that ever descend into FUCK THIS territory right quick. Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don’t want to will only bring on the dry heaves. What the fucking FUCK?  Why is sucking dick as a favor okay, but not eating someone out?  DRY HEAVES??  What the fuck is wrong with you?  Not to say that anyone is ever obligated to do anything sexual they’re not feeling into, but why is there this quiet expectation that sometimes you suck cock when you’re not really into it, but OMG eating pussy when you’re not really into it will literally make you dry-heave??  Fucking gross. Pubic hairs are to eating pussy what cavities are to dental hygiene. You’re never going to be able to identify all the parts if she looks like that PIL album That What is Not. LOL YOUR BODY-POLICING BULLSHIT.  If you can’t “identify all the parts” because ewww natural body hair! then you really shouldn’t be trying to go down on anyone until you grow the fuck up.  GTFO.   one of those nerveless little pea clits and you’re in for a thirty-minute session of tongue-tendinitis. More body-shaming.  HDU have body parts that don’t conform to this dude’s expectation of how women’s bodies should react to his touch???  Also, some people are just a long-slow-simmer type when it comes to cunnilingus.  And there are ways to work with that and still please your partner without giving yourself “tongue-tendinitis”.  (Alternatively, suck it up, you big baby.  Sometimes sex takes a little effort.  Cope.) Eating pussy is so gentle it can make you feel like a bit of a fag. After all, Mr. Elusive is precisely what makes muff diving so difficult. I have never understood why there’s this whole thing about “zomg the clit is so hard to find!”  What…it’s right fucking there!  What do you need, a flashing neon arrow?  JFC.  Again, if you can’t find it or you’re pouting because it’s so “elusive”, then you shouldn’t be trying to go down on anybody. Think of the clit like a tumor in a pile of ear lobes. Frisk him and give him a couple of whacks across the head. More on this punk and his bad attitude later.  Is the constant gendering of the clit as male weirding anyone else out or is it just me?  Not as in “the clit is never male!” but as in “your whole article assumes cishet man licking out cishet woman…so why the fuck is HER clit a HIM???” There are essentially two types of clitori. Ones that enjoy a serious going over and ones that don’t. The latter suck about as much as a one-inch penis and you should dump her right away. Honestly, if you’re going to be like this about your partner’s anatomy, they’re better off without you.  Good riddance, don’t let the door hit you on the way out. try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue like a Mic Mac Indian (hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya). You could be looking at half an hour here pal, and that can be problematic. If you go for that long and she doesn’t cum, you’re going to be in a foul mood Yes, because HIS mood is the one to worry about.  Not, y’know, the person on the receiving end, who by that point is probably either really frustrated or really bored or both.  If you’ve gone half an hour without making your partner orgasm (unless that’s what y’all are into or your partner enjoys the act more than the orgasm), it probably hasn’t exactly been a joyride for them either. Just let it sit there like a dead manta ray for about thirty seconds. You now have a good minute to get the condom on and take her from the quarters of Prince Muhammad Muhammad Saddat to the cockpit of an F-15. …and that makes all KINDS of assumptions about the value of your mighty cock, bro.  And honestly, if you’re the kind of guy who needs this insulting, weird-ass instruction manual to giving head, I’m going to go ahead and assume you’re not exactly Mr. Porn Star in the thrusting department, either. F-15 my pasty white ass.  More like one of these:
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sonneillonv:

tempestcaliban:

cranniesinmybrain:

Ummm….unf…

cupcakevandorn:

leahjasmine:

Men suck at eating pussy. Not because they don’t like it but because it’s really fucking hard. You have to learn it. Giving good head is the key to just about everything in life (including getting good head later on), so it’s time we broke it down. Like this.


The secret to giving good head is to read the signs. You could be the best sexual mechanic in the world, but if you can’t read the emotional road signs, you’re going to end up wandering around in a desolate labial wasteland until, eventually, you drop from exhaustion, hot tears of confusion streaming down your face.

Think of eating the puss as your way of saying, “although I am about to rock your insides with 3 000 lbs. of explosives, here’s a little intimate treat session to show you how I really feel.” Instead of screaming “OH MY GOD!!” like her baby has been trapped under a car (which is what fucking should do), cunnilingus elicits a more splendiferous “ooohmygodohmygod-ohmygod.” Kind of like being massaged with exotic fruits by a muscular Arab oil sheik. A good mange (that’s French for “eat,” you brutes) is like a thousand years of Saturdays or one of those Flake adverts.

Break it down!

BE DOWN

Don’t go down unless you’re down. Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don’t want to will only bring on the dry heaves. Eat like a pig at the trough and a lot of stupid mistakes get forgiven.

DON’T SAY HI TO DRY

A dry pussy is an unhappy pussy. If your fingers graze a dry bush, go back to the kissing and hugging for awhile. Just make sure you actually dip your finger between the lips. Sometimes moisture gets trapped between the labia and a little fingerial coaxing is all that’s needed to get the honey dripping.

Once you’re sure the beaver is wet, give it a few light, teasing strokes with your finger. There’s nothing worse than rushing into this, so make sure she’s really begging for it before you get under the covers.

Extra tip: Be like Prince and bring up a wet finger that both of you can share like a 1950s milkshake with two straws.

Important: Don’t play your trump card too soon by putting your fingers all the way inside. This can detract from the upcoming penetration and kill the tease factor. Try to remember that 78% of a woman’s pleasure is about yearning. Poking it in too soon is sure to put out the fire.

SUBMARINE MISSION FOR YOU, BABY

Once she’s lathered up, it’s time to go down. Get your fingers out of there and don’t touch anything for a bit. Let your lap do a bit of grinding and get some last-minute necking in like you’re going away on vacation.

Though it’s very tempting on your way down to pull the blankets over your head like the little mole-man that you are, this is a very bad idea. It gets super hot down there and whipping the duvet off your head and gasping for air ten seconds before she comes is pretty much going to kill the mood.

Start by kissing her boobs and stomach and slowly working your way down. Don’t get carried away with those stupid tits, though. That’s something you should have taken care of before the pants even came off. Right now it’s all about the stomach and inner thighs. A little bit of gentle biting is good, but a sure winner is to start at the knee and move towards the muff in a slow, shark-like swoop. Nibble your way right up to the edge of her cunt, then skip across it and head for the other knee. Repeat. Doing this a few times will get her really hot and save you a lot of pussy-eating time in the long run.

When you’re just about ready to do the deed, start practicing on that weird crevice next to the lips. Don’t spend too long there or she might start to think that you think that’s the actual cunt.

By now she should be dying for you to make your move. If you’re doing it right, she’ll be moaning and trying to force your head between her legs. Stretch this phase out until she looks like she’s been holding her breath for three days.

Extra trick: Hover over the bush for about five seconds before the first lick. If you wait longer than that, she might think you’re having second thoughts because it smells bad. Of course, we all knows that motherfucker smells sweeter than a bowl of steamin’ crawdaddies.

Important: Never bite the cunt in any way whatsoever. If this needs more explaining you should probably just stick to jerking off.

PARTING THE RED SEAS

Isolate your playing field. Pubic hairs are to eating pussy what cavities are to dental hygiene. You’re never going to be able to identify all the parts if she looks like that PIL album That What is Not. One hot trick is to get her to spread her lips apart so her pussy is all set up for you like a great big buffet.

THE GRAND ENTRANCE

Do your first lick super slow. It’s good to groan and moan too. It shows you’re digging it while sending microscopic audiophonic vibrations right up her snapper. Start just above the anus and take it all the way to the fur. Do about a dozen of these “St. Bernard licks” before moving on (take it really slow, like four seconds per lick). This is a good time to figure out what kind of clit she has. If it’s real sensitive she’ll probably convulse as you pass over it and that means you’re probably in for an easy ride. If there’s no reaction when you graze over her clit, she probably has one of those nerveless little pea clits and you’re in for a thirty-minute session of tongue-tendinitis.

ROCK THE BOAT

Eating pussy is so gentle it can make you feel like a bit of a fag. If you’re getting tired of being ballerina boy, take it out on the clit. Figure out how much abuse it can take without making her uncomfortable and show the little bastard who’s boss.

After all, Mr. Elusive is precisely what makes muff diving so difficult. He’s surrounded by labia and, even after you find him, all the pressure can pop him over to the side. All of a sudden you’re giving the pee hole the seeing to of its life. Think of the clit like a tumor in a pile of ear lobes. When you push down on the area he’s the only one that can’t be squished. Once one of your tongue troopers finds him, call for reinforcements. Use your lips to get hers out of the way and focus all your attention into getting him alone. Once you find him, give him a bit of a hard time for trying to hide from you. Frisk him and give him a couple of whacks across the head. More on this punk and his bad attitude later.

Extra important tip: The best way to stimulate the clit is to run your entire tongue over it after you isolate it from the lips. The man in the boat should feel the texture of the entire tongue pushing down on his body and his boat.

IDENTIFYING THE CLIT TYPE

After the slow licks it’s time to get this party started. There are essentially two types of clitori. Ones that enjoy a serious going over and ones that don’t. The latter suck about as much as a one-inch penis and you should dump her right away.

Extra tip: Clits come in all shapes, sizes and sensitivities, but that doesn’t really tell you much. All of them want to be treated slow and soft at the beginning but the only way to tell if you can go fast at the end is by reading her reactions. This is impossible to teach but just do the best you can. All we can tell you is convulsing means take it ease and “Oh my God” means bring it on.

CLITS THAT NEED A SERIOUS GOING OVER

These are the most fun because you can be creative. Pretend your tongue is the bad cop and the clit is the guy who killed your partner. Separate him from his buddies (the lips) and suck him right up into your mouth. Now he’s on your turf. Keep him erect by creating an air-tight vacuum chamber in your mouth. Slap the little bugger upside the head with one big tongue bonk. He’s not going to tell you shit because he’s a clit and he has no idea what you’re talking about, but kick his ass anyway. After a few teasers and swirling circles, rat-a-tat-tat him senseless like a boxer whacking a speed bag. If she starts freaking out like it’s too much, ease up on the interrogation and go back to the St. Bernard licks. The vacuum is a great way to bring her to orgasm, but it’s a bit much sometimes, so mix things up with some circles around the clit and some tongue fucking.

As you’re closing in for the kill, go back to the vacuum and give the suspect a relentless head smacking. Up-and-downies are usually the most effective, but your tongue will get less tired if you throw in a few side-to-sides. When you feel the inner thighs start to shake, this is it. Be repetitive. Do NOT be creative. You’re almost home and this is not the time to start changing tactics.

Extra tip: To keep the rhythm going, try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue like a Mic Mac Indian (hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya). Any inconsistent action may throw her off, killing the mood or at least setting you back a few minutes, which is bad for morale.

Important: Keep going several seconds after her orgasm. Remember, it isn’t over until the hands come down from above and lay you off. If she’s multi-orgasmic you’ll have to keep going until you’ve done the whole routine another four or five times. If you’re not sure what to do, just keep giving her shit until the magic hands come down to pull you off.

CLITS THAT DON’T

Some clits don’t want to be singled out and battered around. These are the boring ones that need to be treated with gentle care. Just do casual St. Bernard licks until she cums, pure and simple. If you’re getting bored try going in some different directions for a while. A good way to keep it random is to spell out different letters of the alphabet with the tip of your tongue. You could be looking at half an hour here pal, and that can be problematic. If you go for that long and she doesn’t cum, you’re going to be in a foul mood, so if it’s too much work, move on. On the bright side, going for thirty minutes is something few people have the patience for, so sticking it out will lead to some payback when period week comes around.

THE CONCLUSION

Once you’re done (totally finished) she’s going to want you out of there pronto because the whole area is sensitive. Instead of leaving, stick out your tongue and lay it down on her like a thick, soggy carpet. Make sure you don’t move it or anything because that can actually hurt her. Just let it sit there like a dead manta ray for about thirty seconds. Then come up and wipe your face like a pirate. You now have a good minute to get the condom on and take her from the quarters of Prince Muhammad Muhammad Saddat to the cockpit of an F-15.

Hahaha…

 this.

image

BLESS THIS POST. THIS. IS. THE BEST. GUIDE. EVER.

I liked this post until they talked about how women with sensitive clits suck and need to be dumped. Yeah fuck you

Yup, oral sex hurts me, so I guess I need to be dumped.

Wow.  I was liking it for the first couple paragraphs, but holy shit did that ever descend into FUCK THIS territory right quick.

Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don’t want to will only bring on the dry heaves.

What the fucking FUCK?  Why is sucking dick as a favor okay, but not eating someone out?  DRY HEAVES??  What the fuck is wrong with you?  Not to say that anyone is ever obligated to do anything sexual they’re not feeling into, but why is there this quiet expectation that sometimes you suck cock when you’re not really into it, but OMG eating pussy when you’re not really into it will literally make you dry-heave??  Fucking gross.

Pubic hairs are to eating pussy what cavities are to dental hygiene. You’re never going to be able to identify all the parts if she looks like that PIL album That What is Not.

LOL YOUR BODY-POLICING BULLSHIT.  If you can’t “identify all the parts” because ewww natural body hair! then you really shouldn’t be trying to go down on anyone until you grow the fuck up.  GTFO.  

one of those nerveless little pea clits and you’re in for a thirty-minute session of tongue-tendinitis.

More body-shaming.  HDU have body parts that don’t conform to this dude’s expectation of how women’s bodies should react to his touch???  Also, some people are just a long-slow-simmer type when it comes to cunnilingus.  And there are ways to work with that and still please your partner without giving yourself “tongue-tendinitis”.  (Alternatively, suck it up, you big baby.  Sometimes sex takes a little effort.  Cope.)

Eating pussy is so gentle it can make you feel like a bit of a fag.

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After all, Mr. Elusive is precisely what makes muff diving so difficult.

I have never understood why there’s this whole thing about “zomg the clit is so hard to find!”  What…it’s right fucking there!  What do you need, a flashing neon arrow?  JFC.  Again, if you can’t find it or you’re pouting because it’s so “elusive”, then you shouldn’t be trying to go down on anybody.

Think of the clit like a tumor in a pile of ear lobes.

Frisk him and give him a couple of whacks across the head. More on this punk and his bad attitude later. 

Is the constant gendering of the clit as male weirding anyone else out or is it just me?  Not as in “the clit is never male!” but as in “your whole article assumes cishet man licking out cishet woman…so why the fuck is HER clit a HIM???”

There are essentially two types of clitori. Ones that enjoy a serious going over and ones that don’t. The latter suck about as much as a one-inch penis and you should dump her right away.

Honestly, if you’re going to be like this about your partner’s anatomy, they’re better off without you.  Good riddance, don’t let the door hit you on the way out.

try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue like a Mic Mac Indian (hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya).

You could be looking at half an hour here pal, and that can be problematic. If you go for that long and she doesn’t cum, you’re going to be in a foul mood

Yes, because HIS mood is the one to worry about.  Not, y’know, the person on the receiving end, who by that point is probably either really frustrated or really bored or both.  If you’ve gone half an hour without making your partner orgasm (unless that’s what y’all are into or your partner enjoys the act more than the orgasm), it probably hasn’t exactly been a joyride for them either.

Just let it sit there like a dead manta ray for about thirty seconds.

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You now have a good minute to get the condom on and take her from the quarters of Prince Muhammad Muhammad Saddat to the cockpit of an F-15.

…and that makes all KINDS of assumptions about the value of your mighty cock, bro.  And honestly, if you’re the kind of guy who needs this insulting, weird-ass instruction manual to giving head, I’m going to go ahead and assume you’re not exactly Mr. Porn Star in the thrusting department, either.

F-15 my pasty white ass.  More like one of these:

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Source: astealerofhearts

widdershinsgirl:

Whenever there’s a fictional universe where certain powers are gender-related, I am ALWAYS frightened to ask where and how trans people fit into this universe.

This never occurred to me before, but in the last couple years I’ve started paying attention to this and…I don’t think I’ve seen any gendered-power worldbuilding ever take this into account.  :-/  (Ramblyness about a specific canon universe under the cut to spare everyone’s dash)

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theresallwaystomorrow: I think my tweet speak the truth [feminist killjoy mode]  Except for the cissexist assumptions underlying that, though.  There are men who need to worry about getting pregnant; there are women who need to worry about impregnating their partners; there are people of non-binary gender who have these concerns, too.  If you assume, as a gay man, that “[your] orientation takes care of that”, you’re saying that you’re a cis man who will only ever partner with other cis men.  Which is either ignorance of the existence of trans people, or is bigotry of the “they can exist but ew I wouldn’t date one” variety.   Not to mention, knowledge is a good thing to have regardless of if you’re likely to need it, especially when you’re talking basic human biology.  Unless you’re also saying that you’re a cis man who will never ever be friends with or related to AFAB people for whom birth control and menstruation and related reproductive health is part of their lives, and thus probably tangentially relevant to you if you care about their lives.  [/feminist killjoy mode]
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theresallwaystomorrow:

I think my tweet speak the truth

[feminist killjoy mode]  Except for the cissexist assumptions underlying that, though.  There are men who need to worry about getting pregnant; there are women who need to worry about impregnating their partners; there are people of non-binary gender who have these concerns, too.  If you assume, as a gay man, that “[your] orientation takes care of that”, you’re saying that you’re a cis man who will only ever partner with other cis men.  Which is either ignorance of the existence of trans people, or is bigotry of the “they can exist but ew I wouldn’t date one” variety.  

Not to mention, knowledge is a good thing to have regardless of if you’re likely to need it, especially when you’re talking basic human biology.  Unless you’re also saying that you’re a cis man who will never ever be friends with or related to AFAB people for whom birth control and menstruation and related reproductive health is part of their lives, and thus probably tangentially relevant to you if you care about their lives.  [/feminist killjoy mode]

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Source: stillherestillfighting

thatfeministdyke:

el-gringo-mejor:

jadelyn:

el-gringo-mejor:

thatfeministdyke:

el-gringo-mejor:

thatfeministdyke:

myasphyxiatedmind:

el-gringo-mejor:

myasphyxiatedmind:

cactusrabbit:

rosalarian:

Periods, you no longer impress me. I am bleeding from my nethers, WHATEVER. Try something new, uterus. You make chocolate pudding instead of blood, then we’ll talk.

I don’t know why dudes think they’re so hardcore. I can look down and see BLOOD RUNNING DOWN MY LEG and be like ‘meh’. I can wake up in a pool of blood and be like ‘oh well time to do the laundry’. I can be hemorrhaging from my bits for days and not give a shit.

One time someone asked me if I had problems with blood and I was ‘nope, I’m a lady.’

I’d like to see you hardcore dudes do the same when YOU shoot blood and viscera out of your peen.

Tags were: #I would tag these period posts for squeamish dudes but I laugh at squeamish dudes #half the population deals with this shit get used to it already #i agree with the above tags but #periods #can be triggery for various reasons #so #cartoon #art

Okay, this is the second time this has showed up on my dash so I can’t ignore it.

The second comment on this? Cissexist as fuck.

Please. Let’s remember that some of those ‘squeamish dudes’ also menstruate. And that some women? Don’t.

Remember that no one gives two shits. Then you’ll be closer to the right track

You are seriously a transphobic piece of shit, you know that right?

For those curious, el-gringo-mejor is a super ~badass anti-SJ~ teacher (you heard that right, teacher) who I called out over on my regular account for cissexism a few weeks ago. They didn’t take the call out well. As a result, they’ve been stalking my regular account and generally being a transphobic douche.

And you’re continuing to prove my point about how teachers are treated like shit bc it’s a female dominated profession and everyone holds us to an unattainable standard. Good job.

So. Since when is not being a cissexist douchebag an unobtainable standard again?

I’m not holding you to an unobtainable standard. I’m expecting you to A. Not be a cissexist fuckwit. B. Not stalk and troll my main account like a 15 year old douchebro from 4chan because you’re angry over being called out.

I think those are pretty obtainable standards.

Do you teach your kids to behave like this?

See there you go again. Flapping your mouth and not knowing what you’re saying. Clearly teachers are never allowed to do anything unapproved by the masses because vaginas must be punished.

…okay, I’m desperately curious to figure out how you go from “please stop furthering trans* oppression” - and hell, at this point, it’s devolved into just “please stop being an enormous asshole”, which I would think is a totally reasonable request - to “vaginas must be punished”.

It’s less “do nothing unapproved by the masses!” and more “stop being a troll who harasses people for pointing out that genitalia =/= gender”.  And trust me, it has absolutely fuck all to do with vaginas or lack thereof.  

Is teaching as a profession held to a higher, sometimes unreasonably high standard of behavior both in the classroom and out of it?  Yes.  Does that probably have to do with its history as being a female-dominated profession?  Yes.  And there’s legitimate critique to be made of that.  But “zomg ur punishing my VAGINA” is, to put it mildly, not that critique.

I’ve watched friends literally driven into suicidal attempts by the intense dysphoria menstruation brought on.  They are people with vaginas.  They are not women.  And they’re not “squeamish”.  Which is all Dark’s original criticism was saying!  That there are plenty of not-female people (trans men and AFAB non-binary people) who are uncomfortable with menstruation, who aren’t so much “squeamish” as they are dealing with a trigger for dysphoria that can range from causing anxiety attacks and depression for a few days a month, all the way up to attempting suicide.  And that it’s really not funny to mock that.  Similarly, I’ve seen trans woman friends triggered pretty badly by stuff like this that assumes “vagina=woman”.  

So, you know, you’re free to not give a shit.  It’s a free country and all that jazz.  But it means you’re not giving a shit about massively hurting people.  Which relates back to teaching in that it goes to character; someone whose response to people going “ow, this hurts and it’s not okay” is “LOL whatever don’t punish my vagina”, is not the kind of personality who should be responsible for helping to shape children’s minds in their formative years.

Has it ever occurred to you, by the by, that some of the kids you teach may themselves be trans?  That you are, however indirectly (as I don’t assume you’d ever say this kind of stuff in the classroom), helping perpetuate shit that could literally get some of your students killed at some point?  If you give so few fucks about the kids you teach, I don’t want you anywhere near them.  THAT’S what the teaching comments are about.  It’s got not one single thing to do with teaching as a female-dominated profession nor is it even remotely about your putative genitalia.  Now please, put down the strawman and either engage with real criticism, or go the fuck away.

I love this conversation.

You people literally have no concept of tone in writing.  It’s fucking hilarious.

Teaching profession is female dominated.  Yes.  Cis women dominated.  For that reason, teachers have long been given the shitball for several centuries, including the fact that a teacher would get fired so much as for socialising with a man after school hours.  You’re fucking stupid if you don’t think that I realise as a LGBT person that I’m at a serious fucking disadvantage due to my lifestyle.

So the comment about how ‘vaginas must be punished’ is *wait for it* A HYPERBOLIC COMMENT on how society in general chooses to treat teachers.  Do you honestly give a shit about how other people act in their leisure time vs. on the job?  No.  But since I’m a teacher, the idea of an internet argument should what, be beyond me?  Nah.  The way I act on tumblr and the way I act in my professional life just don’t intersect.  You don’t know who I am as a professional because this just isn’t a professional arena.  Therefore, I will not be entertaining further argument about my professional life.

I don’t think that I’ve made a single comment about how I feel about transgender people.  Myasphixiatedmind (a more fitting screen name there never was) took it upon herself to slap that label on me.  I’m kind of here for the lulz.  Poking said human is lulzy.  So I’ll continue for lulz.

It doesn’t matter that you haven’t made a single comment outright saying what you think about transgender people because you’ve already said as much through your cissexism.

Oh, look. You’re misgendering me now. Tell me more about how much you care about transgender people.

In no particular order:

  • I’m well aware of the history of teaching as a profession and the strictures placed on teachers in other times.  I am also aware that this has not abated (teachers, always female, being fired for someone finding out that they did fetish modeling or porn decades prior to becoming a teacher).  Again, there’s a conversation to be had there….but “Punishing my vagina” is on the other side of the galaxy from that conversation.
  • “It’s hyperbole, god don’t you know how to read for tone???!?!” is, as far as internet arguments go, right up there with “It was a social experiment!!1!” and “It’s ironic!!1!”  It is not a magical get-out-of-consequences-free card.  It does not make a shitty thing you said no longer shitty.  That you keep going back to that “defense” of your argument makes it abundantly clear how little you have to stand on in terms of defending yourself, and you know it.
  • If you think teachers are the only ones whose off-the-clock conduct matters in this day and age, think again.  People get fired for racist rants they post on their FB pages.  Employers look at the personal social media accounts of potential employees and you get marked down for having pictures of partying or other adult-type activities.  This is not unique to you, so get off your “oh poor me” pedestal here.
  • However.  There is a unique aspect to it when it comes to teachers, which has shit all to do with the gendered history of the profession.  The fact remains that, whatever the gender of the teacher, whatever the gendered history of the profession, teachers are people, supposedly professionals, who are tasked with curating the open, impressionable minds of young children as they go through the maturing process of figuring out themselves and the world around them.  There’s a unique power that comes with that, and thus responsibility.  I will give more of a shit about the personality of a teacher as demonstrated by their non-work activities, than I will give about the personality of an accountant or construction worker or whatever else.  
  • This is not to say that teachers can’t have personal lives in which they behave in ways they never would in the classroom.  
  • But at the point at which that off-hours behavior starts indicating an immature, callous, pissy little 15-year-old Reddit troll living behind the teacher facade, who is apparently pathologically incapable of just letting shit go when someone tells them they’re being an asshole (much less apologizing, shock horror NEVER)…that’s when I start to think, maybe this person has a temperament that is poorly suited to caring for children.  
  • Even if your professional mode is as highly-polished as you’re claiming, have you ever heard of unconscious bias?  The real attitudes you’re hiding behind professionalism have a nasty tendency to leak through in subtle ways, even when you’re trying not to.  
  • And even if you are absolutely a perfect model of The Good Teacher when you’re on-the-clock, your choice to play cissexist troll like this is propping up overarching social narratives and structures that have impact beyond just trollfests on the internet.  Hence why “it’s just the internet” is not a defense in the slightest, anymore than HYPERBOLE is.
  • I do not give one tiny, miniscule, infinitesimal fuck how you actually feel about trans people.  What you believe is flat the fuck irrelevant compared to what you actually say and do.  Which, considering that you’ve been saying cissexist “genitalia and gender are interchangeable” stuff, and continued to troll and harass the person who told you to knock it off “for the lulz”…yeah.  Didn’t your parents ever tell you, actions speak louder than words?  Your conduct is far more telling than what you claim to believe or not believe.
  • Honestly, grow the fuck up.  You really do sound like you’ve got the emotional maturity of a 12-year-old stuck in the education and body of an adult.  It’s getting ridiculous at this point.

Source: rosalarian

el-gringo-mejor:

thatfeministdyke:

el-gringo-mejor:

thatfeministdyke:

myasphyxiatedmind:

el-gringo-mejor:

myasphyxiatedmind:

cactusrabbit:

rosalarian:

Periods, you no longer impress me. I am bleeding from my nethers, WHATEVER. Try something new, uterus. You make chocolate pudding instead of blood, then we’ll talk.

I don’t know why dudes think they’re so hardcore. I can look down and see BLOOD RUNNING DOWN MY LEG and be like ‘meh’. I can wake up in a pool of blood and be like ‘oh well time to do the laundry’. I can be hemorrhaging from my bits for days and not give a shit.

One time someone asked me if I had problems with blood and I was ‘nope, I’m a lady.’

I’d like to see you hardcore dudes do the same when YOU shoot blood and viscera out of your peen.

Tags were: #I would tag these period posts for squeamish dudes but I laugh at squeamish dudes #half the population deals with this shit get used to it already #i agree with the above tags but #periods #can be triggery for various reasons #so #cartoon #art

Okay, this is the second time this has showed up on my dash so I can’t ignore it.

The second comment on this? Cissexist as fuck.

Please. Let’s remember that some of those ‘squeamish dudes’ also menstruate. And that some women? Don’t.

Remember that no one gives two shits. Then you’ll be closer to the right track

You are seriously a transphobic piece of shit, you know that right?

For those curious, el-gringo-mejor is a super ~badass anti-SJ~ teacher (you heard that right, teacher) who I called out over on my regular account for cissexism a few weeks ago. They didn’t take the call out well. As a result, they’ve been stalking my regular account and generally being a transphobic douche.

And you’re continuing to prove my point about how teachers are treated like shit bc it’s a female dominated profession and everyone holds us to an unattainable standard. Good job.

So. Since when is not being a cissexist douchebag an unobtainable standard again?

I’m not holding you to an unobtainable standard. I’m expecting you to A. Not be a cissexist fuckwit. B. Not stalk and troll my main account like a 15 year old douchebro from 4chan because you’re angry over being called out.

I think those are pretty obtainable standards.

Do you teach your kids to behave like this?

See there you go again. Flapping your mouth and not knowing what you’re saying. Clearly teachers are never allowed to do anything unapproved by the masses because vaginas must be punished.

…okay, I’m desperately curious to figure out how you go from “please stop furthering trans* oppression” - and hell, at this point, it’s devolved into just “please stop being an enormous asshole”, which I would think is a totally reasonable request - to “vaginas must be punished”.

It’s less “do nothing unapproved by the masses!” and more “stop being a troll who harasses people for pointing out that genitalia =/= gender”.  And trust me, it has absolutely fuck all to do with vaginas or lack thereof.  

Is teaching as a profession held to a higher, sometimes unreasonably high standard of behavior both in the classroom and out of it?  Yes.  Does that probably have to do with its history as being a female-dominated profession?  Yes.  And there’s legitimate critique to be made of that.  But “zomg ur punishing my VAGINA” is, to put it mildly, not that critique.

I’ve watched friends literally driven into suicidal attempts by the intense dysphoria menstruation brought on.  They are people with vaginas.  They are not women.  And they’re not “squeamish”.  Which is all Dark’s original criticism was saying!  That there are plenty of not-female people (trans men and AFAB non-binary people) who are uncomfortable with menstruation, who aren’t so much “squeamish” as they are dealing with a trigger for dysphoria that can range from causing anxiety attacks and depression for a few days a month, all the way up to attempting suicide.  And that it’s really not funny to mock that.  Similarly, I’ve seen trans woman friends triggered pretty badly by stuff like this that assumes “vagina=woman”.  

So, you know, you’re free to not give a shit.  It’s a free country and all that jazz.  But it means you’re not giving a shit about massively hurting people.  Which relates back to teaching in that it goes to character; someone whose response to people going “ow, this hurts and it’s not okay” is “LOL whatever don’t punish my vagina”, is not the kind of personality who should be responsible for helping to shape children’s minds in their formative years.

Has it ever occurred to you, by the by, that some of the kids you teach may themselves be trans?  That you are, however indirectly (as I don’t assume you’d ever say this kind of stuff in the classroom), helping perpetuate shit that could literally get some of your students killed at some point?  If you give so few fucks about the kids you teach, I don’t want you anywhere near them.  THAT’S what the teaching comments are about.  It’s got not one single thing to do with teaching as a female-dominated profession nor is it even remotely about your putative genitalia.  Now please, put down the strawman and either engage with real criticism, or go the fuck away.

Source: rosalarian

shorm:

wooo getting into an argument on twitter about how the salvation army is pure unadulterated evil

but seriously, if you have any choice in where you go either to donate or to buy clothing, and you choose to buy from there, you are supporting an evil fucking organization masquerading as a charity who refuses to help LGBTQ* youth unless they “give up their evil ways”

about 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ*

you can not fucking say you help homeless youth if you’re only helping 60% of them

(Also there’s the fact that the SA is actually a church, which a lot of people don’t realize, but that in and of itself is not shitty)

Their being a church wouldn’t be shitty except that they’re an extremely fundamentalist, coercive church, according to ex-SA’s who’ve written about their experiences.

A Bug's Life: The Importance Of Naming Oneself [TW: Brennan]

  • Cathy Brennan: Don't call me cis! I am not cis!
  • Trans* Woman: Okay, I think you have a different understanding of the term than I do, but I support the right to self-identify so I won't use it for you specifically.
  • Cathy Brennan: Absolutely. The right to name oneself is crucial. The right to self-identify is crucial.
  • Trans* Woman: So you understand that I self-identify as female.
  • Cathy Brennan: And I self-identify you as male.
  • Trans* Woman: You can't actually do that.
  • Cathy Brennan: Don't take away my right to self-identify you!
  • Trans* Woman: ...I think you miss the point of "self-identify". The key word here is "self".
  • Cathy Brennan: Uh, right, dude, and my self identifies you as male. Have you even BEEN to law school?
  • Trans* Woman: But you don't get to self-identify for other people. You are in charge of your own identity. That's what self-identify means.
  • Cathy Brennan: Okay, I get it. I myself identify as female.
  • Trans* Woman: Yes.
  • Cathy Brennan: And therefore you must be male.
  • Trans* Woman: But what about the right to self-identify?
  • Cathy Brennan: It is crucial. That's why you must not infringe upon my right to self-identify by being female. I was here first.
  • Trans* Woman: That's not actually a...
  • Cathy Brennan: FIRST!
  • Trans* Woman: ...
  • Cathy Brennan: By the way, I found out your legal name so I'm a call you Josh.
  • Trans* Woman: ...
  • Cathy Brennan: Now I self-identify as someone who is being threatened by you. Why are you so violent, Josh?

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